Honor the other person's dreams. Understand what they want to achieve and then help them do it.

moving through a dust storm, where is the advent? 
"how did you learn to make that quilting knot?  That is so cool" I said.
"You taught me."  he said.
"I did?"
How many things do we not remember ourselves doing, saying, being?  Or what are we holding against ourselves because  of such., that keep us from taking the next step, expressing ourselves more fully.

I am exploring expectations, how that energy comes at me, unconsciously  and then how I also put that out into situations.  Argh, what a subtle lesson.  Because time is so fast now, no time, this is practically simultaneously, back to back, one wing then the other.  With two wings we fly.

Then I see a quote on my shelf.  "let go obsessions about rules, details and fears of not doing things perfectly.

I like to remind myself that we are all co-creating - every moment is a new choice, fresh.  We are all doing the best we can.  If I hold this knowledge in my heart ...start the day here - with compassion.

Several years ago, I was inspired to make a colorful hat, I made it and called it a paradigm hat.  A paradigm is world view we look through - where we are in agreement to see things a particular way. 

Then I fell down and broke my crown

What is that nursery rhythm?  Jack fell down and broke his crown and Jill came tumbling after...

to blame anyone, including myself.  We are all doing the best we can with the understanding, knowledge, and awareness we have. " Louise Hay

I found this quote hit the nail on the head after  I struggled all day to discover new perception of an experience I had on Thanksgiving.  I was realllllllllllllllllly in the blame game of someone else's behavior being hurtful to me.  I sloshed it around my heart and mind, convinced I was right.  I even got others to agree. 

I thought "this is the end of the relationship" 
I remembered a teacher once said, when you are not getting along with someone, it is time to look within.  I followed the hurt, it swelled to anger, then pride, abandonment...where was I letting this bother me, giving my power to it.  My 5 year old- being told she was not good enough...she believed it.  I can choose anew.  That was just someone having their opinion...

I didn't realize I was blaming.

Gosh, I forgave myself.

After doing several more imaginary cartwheels and  flips through my deck of Louise Hay,  this card said it all. 

Thank you thank you Louise for being a guide in peace creating.