Allowing diversity of Growth

How do we create  space for everyone to be able to grow at their own pace and timing.

There was a person in my life, and I so thought this person aught to change. 
"Maybe that is what he is exploring this life"  Oh, ok, I can understand that.

No body needs fixing, we are all learning about what we are, or not.  It doesn't matter.  To me what matters is my own relationship to what that in the other person brings up in me.  Can I have that in myself.  That is where the richness in life is, instead of pushing away or trying to control - to embrace.  Maybe the other can not have this, that does not matter, there is no outside, it is all within, and we each make the ground just that much more fertile for all that is.

Do you notice things in others that bother you?  How do you respond?