Seek to understand...

I ran into a youth I sometimes talk with in my neighborhood as I was coming back from exercising.  She had just dropped off a hand drawn card for me.  We both came back to my place as she wanted to see my response to her card.  I was very surprised, thankful to have her card.  We chatted and she wanted to know how I was doing with my art.  I invited her in to look around.

She saw some familiar imagery that is often in Christian art, the Mother Mary and child, that I have copied from some art books.  Then some words on a board caught her eye....Seek to Understand.....Children healing priority... Never Never talk about other people - gossip- it's not safe - trigger is a need to be needed...

What's that?
Oh  reminders for me, sometimes I forget.

Well gosh, my friends say bad things about me.  They don't like tatoos on people or my piercing... I think that is judgmental and not nice, it's like bullying. And it hurts.  I don't know what to do about it, cause I want to be friends, I want to have friends.

Me too, often, I leave situations, but once I couldn't.  I knew the conversation was going in a bad direction, but didn't know what to do.  I paused inwardly and asked for help. Suddenly I was inspired to ask the person about a topic I knew they loved. Then we were in a new space where we both could participate more fully.

I go into  black and white often and shut people out... hum... but I see your friends do want connection, just like you, yet they just may not know how to make it more loving and nurturing.   It's good you are connected to your feelings, . You can trust your guidance and creativity - If one room is not a good place to play, you can create a door to another another room that is more fun.  And see if they will join you there.

Like ask them what animals they like?

Yeah, there you know!



Do you have experiences that you are learning from?